In this whole class behaviour management incentive program, I would reward desirable behaviour within the class by adding marbles to the jar. Individuals could achieve marbles for the jar as well as the whole class! I saw the way you cleaned up your toys without anyone asking. That was very ‘helpful’! You deserve a marble for being so ‘helpful’ today”. Every interaction with another person is either the addition of a marble(s) or the removal of them! (growth or erosion of the above attributes)

We are all looking for positive parenting solutions, and we have a unique way to motivate good behavior and reward it, using a marble jar. This works great for preschoolers and elementary aged kids. How to Use a Marble Jar to Reward Good Behavior In Kids Draw a logo with your child –Decide together what visually represents the behavior you’re targeting and create your own logo for it. Tape it to the jar. Let your child choose their favorite game to play with you, or maybe they earn screen time as a reward for good behavior. The professor went on to explain that the jar represents everything that is in one's life, which we'll explain in the next section… Is the Jar Full? A Breakdown on This StoryIf you’ve filled the Marble Jar once or twice before, and your child’s behavior is consistent without marble rewards. Differentiated Marbles - we need to appreciate that an action is not always seen the same way by different people. A deposit for one person may be a withdrawal from another and deposits may have differing levels of impact between people. This is why we need to invest in understanding our students, friends, colleagues and family which it itself is a deposit. This holds true with the things you let into your life. If you spend all of your time on the small and insignificant things, you will run out of room for the things that are actually important.

This story appears in many forms, some even incorporating a fourth element of water. However, its original source is unknown. So consider the following to be a metaphor instead of an actual person who said the following.) I would often have a separate individual reward system, however, this was always a fantastic whole class effort!

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I saw that you found something else to play with, even though you really wanted to play with that toy your friend had. You had a choice to be angry, or to have fun and try something new. You chose to have fun. Thank you for being ‘flexible’. That choice is definitely a marble in the jar for you.” As a leader looking to build trust, here are a few tips to work towards adding marbles to others’ jars: hold yourself accountable and prove your reliability; be clear and honest in your communications, but make sure to hold in confidence that which should not be shared publicly; choose what’s right over what’s comfortable – practice your values, not just profess your values; and come at situations with a non-judgmental and open mind. As stated before, trust is about give and take over a period of time. Be comfortable with being patient. Give a little to get a little. If you are brave, generous, and honest in your actions, people will start to trust you in return. It’s the small steps that will get you there. This means that if the pebbles and the sand were lost, the jar would still be full and your life would still have meaning. If you are able to identify the important things in your lifeahead of time and set aside the time you need to work on them, then in the long run it is okay to procrastinate a bit on the “pebbles” or the other projects that are not as important. Removing Marbles - marbles come out of the jar when the above don't happen and the number of marbles removed matches the perceived severity of the negative interaction. Common withdrawals not mentioned above include public humiliation, disloyalty, blaming and arrogance.